Directing our emotions, our thoughts, our words, and our actions…to be who we were created to be.
The Economist is no fan of Donald Trump. The October 27 to November 2, 2018 issue featured a column by the editor Lexington describing the foreign policy failures and successes of the President. It was accompanied by the picture noted here, which shows Trump as an archer rejoicing over a single bulls-eye while quivers of arrows are far off the mark. He seems to be ignoring his many failures and raising his arms in triumph over one, perhaps random, success. Maybe Lexington sees Trump as an incompetent egomaniac who sometimes gets lucky. Certainly, other people do. While catchy, this illustration is a snowflake in an avalanche of political cartoons criticizing the US leader.
Continue reading “As We Think”
Assumptions, Emotions, Perceptions, Conditions, and Facts color our communication with ourselves and others. We must learn to manage them.
A wise man once said that the hardest thing about communication is the illusion that it has occurred. I have been involved in hundreds of medical, military, and public safety operations, and the after-action reviews of each one cite communication as a problem. Whether in business, relationships, or anywhere else, avalanches of academic papers and mountains of media articles bemoan our inability to effectively talk to each other, and propose ways of fixing it.
Several factors are present in every communication event, including assumptions, emotions, perceptions, conditions, and facts. They change the communication, often without the participants realizing it.
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We may pity the person following someone who is widely acclaimed in their field. But they are doing really important work, and we should thank them.
A Tennessee democrat who was firmly committed to the Union, Andrew Johnson had a distinguished career as congressman, senator and governor of his state. Hoping to send a message of reconciliation to the rebellious South, Lincoln chose Johnson as his vice president in 1864. Johnson’s debut on the national stage went poorly, with a rambling and perhaps drunken speech when he assumed office in March 1865. Lincoln followed with a masterpiece, his Second Inaugural Address. Little did anyone know that in only six weeks, at one of the most crucial times in American history, the rambler would be President.
A Missouri democrat who came to national prominence investigating fraud, waste and abuse on the Committee of Military Affairs during the Second World War, Harry Truman had earlier served as farmer, haberdasher, judge and US senator. With President Franklin Roosevelt in declining health and many expecting that he would not survive his fourth term, the party looked for a vice president who could succeed in the top job. Eighty-two days after the Inauguration, Roosevelt lay dead, and Truman took the top job.
Continue reading “The Long Shadow – How to Follow a Superstar”
It is true that no one cares how much you know until they know how much you care
- A husband and father earns the right to lead his family by caring for his wife and children.
- A minister earns the right to preach by caring for his congregation.
- A physician earns the right to teach medical students and residents by caring for them, and the right to influence and even direct his patients by caring for them.
- A commander earns the right to command by caring for his soldiers.
- A manager earns the right to lead by caring for his employees.
- A teacher earns the right to teach by caring for his students.
- A king earns the right to rule and a prime minister or president earns the right to preside (exercise authority or control) by caring for his citizens.
Caring is not merely feeling benevolent emotions. Actually, since emotions are merely a side effect of thoughts and actions, benevolent emotions are an outgrowth, not a cause or a definition, or caring. Leaders who care do the following for those who follow them:
- Learn about them
- Pray for them
- Encourage them
- Talk to them
- Listen to them
- Rebuke them
- Mentor them
- Teach them
- Be accountable to them